“Momma said its just a little white lie, aint hurtin nobody.”
From the movie Forrest Gump
We humans lie to cover up something we’ve done, we lie to get something we want, we lie to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, but very often we lie to ourselves. I think it’s a normal way of compartmentalizing traumas in our lives and dealing with daily bullshit.
We tell ourselves, “It’s no big deal”and stuff the memory in a safety deposit box in our minds, and lock it away. For years we may forget the very existence of the incident, until something reminds you of it. Then, like a kick to your chest, it all comes rushing back. Every bad feeling you had, however small, is a time bomb waiting to go off someday.
Sometimes its a good thing we waited. As an adult, we have the reasoning power to process and put aside the pain and anger, the maturity to forgive the slight or transgression. The ability to understand no one is perfect, we all make many mistakes. But for many young children, they have no way to cope, and this can lead to anger or other complications including suicide.
Children today are surrounded by lairs. Their parents, everything they watch on TV, and most of their friends. What great examples they have to learn from! They will grow up not seeing any problem with lying. But if everyone lies, there is no trust. Without trust, there are no endearing relationships. Its like sex without love, shallow and meaningless. Nothing but a selfish act in an effort to relieve ones carnal desires.
Sometimes we lie to avoid the daily “Drama” that just seems to follow some people. “I’m sorry, I have to walk my pet fish, so I can’t come over right now.” Some people have lied so much, its just a normal part of their day. You never really know if their telling the truth or not. After awhile, people like that are going to end up alone and sad, wondering what went wrong with their life.
To not be a lair takes effort. You must understand how your lies effect yourself and others. Realizing the self destructive nature of lies, you must strive to change who you are. That means being truthful with yourself. Not always an easy proposition. Each morning when you get up, ask yourself…”Am I going to continue leading a life of deceiving myself and others, or shall I adopt a policy of truth?”