Fragile Lives, Shattered Dreams

When we were young the future was so bright
The old neighborhood was so alive
And every kid on the whole damn street
Was gonna make it big and not be beat

Now the neighborhood’s cracked and torn
The kids are grown up but their lives are worn
How can one little street
Swallow so many lives

Chances thrown
Nothing’s free
Longing for what used to be
Still it’s hard
Hard to see
Fragile lives, shattered dreams

Jamie had a chance, well she really did
Instead she dropped out and had a couple of kids
Mark still lives at home cause he’s got no job
He just plays guitar and smokes a lot of pot

Jay committed suicide
Brandon OD’d and died
What the hell is going on
The cruelest dream, reality

Chances thrown
Nothing’s free
Longing for what used to be
Still it’s hard
Hard to see
Fragile lives, shattered dreams

The Kids Aren’t Alright – The Offspring

I was just sitting in a truck stop restaurant having dinner and I overheard two young women, both in their early 20’s, discussing their lives in the booth behind me. One woman was very animated in describing her unhappiness with her relationship. She went on and on about he did this, he did that, he never this or that. I thought to myself how silly her complaints seemed to me, but is it just because I am male, or because I’m much older?

Why when her friend said just leave him and she countered with “but then I’ll have no money or car” did I feel like she just didn’t get it? She didn’t seem to realize how petty and shallow that sounded. Is she just that immature or does she see relationships as a way to get things? Is her self esteem so low that the thought of going it alone seem beyond the limit of her ability?

I will admit I was very much like her when I was young. My self esteem was so low I really didn’t understand my worth in this world, the value of my life was lost in the simple thinking of day to day existence. Without a goal, without a plan to achieve it, I was open to the influence of others looking to use me for their gain. Just as that young woman was using him for his car and paycheck, he was using her for sex most likely. I hope she wakes up sooner than I did and realizes the benefit to the world she could be if she just believed in herself.

I think the dreams of youth can be inflated by pop culture, social media, ideological professors, disconnected parents and other outside influences that can cloud a young and fragile mind. Too often we read stories of young “Snowflake” millennial’s that can’t adjust to the world outside of the collage cocoon, no “Safe Space” to run to so they wont be hurt by words or ideas they don’t agree with. Just because you have a degree in some social science dreamscape does not mean you will find a six figure salary your first day after graduation, or ever for that matter. I don’t feel bad that you now have a huge student loan, it’s your responsibility to pay it off not the government or the taxpayers. Welcome to the real world!

I don’t feel you need a degree in this world to make a difference. We all do our part to make things better in some way, even something as simple as holding the door for others has an impact. You don’t need a degree to check on your elderly neighbors instead of thinking “Meals on Wheels” or some other agency will insure they are fed and safe.  All the big ideals of Globalization has caused us to ignore the people in our small sphere of influence. We forgot what it feels like to truly help another individual on a personal level. I’ve done this in the past, and I’m going to do it again.

Every time I see a politician or celebrity on TV talking about this government program or that charity, how the children will suffer or the homeless are dying, it really makes me mad. I wonder if they ever directly bought some food for a poor family, brought a homeless person into their home and fed them? You can bet that NEVER has happened! No, they donate their time for the adds, hold a fundraiser for a charity, or just write a check. They go back to their gated community and congratulate themselves on how they made the rest of us look uncaring and mean spirited.

I’m afraid modern society in many ways has forgotten what it means to be a good neighbor, what it means to help someone directly. Oh there are those who volunteer at a soup kitchen or even join the peace corps and travel to Africa to help starving children. To them I say thank you for really giving it your all. But why can’t you start right here at home? Are not other countries responsible for their own destiny for the most part? Why should we neglect our own while sending billions overseas, sometimes to people who hate us? Am I wrong or does that just seem stupid!

I don’t hold out much hope that anything will change in the near future. Our leaders are so power hungry they are blind to the plight of ordinary people. They are so removed from reality that our voices are nothing but the incessant buzz of a house fly to be swatted. The saddest part of it all is that it’s our own fault. We keep blindly voting the same group back in time after time, even though we complain about the lack of results. Sounds like the definition of insanity to me!


17 thoughts on “Fragile Lives, Shattered Dreams

  1. I don’t have a degree (and there is a really nasty sting in that tail which I will share publically one day ….). My husband has a double first class at Batchelors level (the system is a bit different in England, we don’t do a general degree with majors but rather specialise from the age of 18 – normally it is one subject, he did two in tandem hence calling him the man with two brains) and a PhD which is esteemed in his world. Great. He’s better than me, right? No. He actually feels he has less value than a dustman – a garbage collector cleans up the garbage, which is a crucial role in the health cycle if only by keeping rats, insects and disease at bay. I was going to own the world when I was 18, by 28 I had decided that I could own just my own little part of the world, at 50+ I feel that I am a mere tiny cog and that if I can support myself and not be a burden on the world, understand what my impact is and keep it as tiny as possible then I am living a worthwhile life. I have four daughters. I have tried to help that learn that quicker than I did. Whether I did or not is variable but if I was to have all these extra humans I felt it was my duty to try and turn them out as good citizens. So far they all support themselves not asking for Government handouts and they all understand that this world needs us all to take personal responsibility and not leech off others because we want nice things. Whatever we define as nice things is a personal thing but we are personally responsible for getting those things and not at the cost of others. My friend, this is a great post and I am proud to call you my friend. Really really proud.

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    1. The two greatest gifts make you the best mom/mum.. Love and a sense of self reliance.. No matter what obstacles or stumbling blocks, love and the drive to be capable to one’s own ability are essential to self esteem and how we walk in this world and what we believe.. 💛
      Handouts (instead of hand ups) are how the human masses are controlled without the threat of revolution.. The great social experiment thats been underway for decades, is screaming this in our faces..

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      1. You are one smart cookie… uber smart. Nuff said …. those that float above, around or below the handouts, they have my respect so long as they are not being from those that have not and by dibt of the begging feel obliged to give what they don’t have. We should all make an effort

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      2. I honestly believe this is why my hardline against “govt and certain huge foundation handouts” is misunderstood as being uncaring and heartless.. It’s not charity, it’s calculated brainwashing.. It will come back to bite those in power when entitlement whiners demand more.. But then, they will show the masses the ugly side of dependence when they squeeze them into submission by simply withholding the necessities.. Charity begins in the heart and can only come from the heart.. Everything else is a dangerous con..

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  2. It’s a burden of the young to be clueless. To be (for a short time hopefully) users and losers. It supposedly helps them mature into caring and compassionate adults. But somewhere along the line that formula has gotten messed up and now we are faced with (to me) old ‘children’ (anybody over 35 who is still relying on parents to prop them up) who are entitled and haven’t learned the lessons they should have. A lot of us in our generation (I’m in the same age group as you) were drifters in our early goals, no focus, no reason. But we’ve grown out of that and now have wisdom to share with those young user/losers. If they’ll listen. My opinion anyway. Great post!

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      1. Who knows? In my opinion, no they did not/do not listen. Perhaps it is mankind’s greatest fallacy — to keep reinventing the wheel. Making the same mistakes. You’d think one Hitler would have been enough, but apparently not…Here we are again with a mad man leading the strongest nation … It’s terrifying, you ask me. 😨


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